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scottbag

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Posted At:	05/07/2008 09:06:38
Posted By:	scottbag
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Topic:	Random Thoughts
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Random Thoughts > To be or not to be?

Ask yourself this, can you be too much of one thing and not of another?

Can you be too welcoming and nice, that you become part of the furniture? Is it possible to become to reliable and too helpful and friendly that you end up being the doormat?

Don't get me wrong, you can defend yourself and hold your own in an argument, but when it comes to things that matter, issues of the heard or emergencies, then are you simply expected to be there and do as you always have?

For the most of us we go through our daily lives trying to be as helpful as we can. Lend a hand here, Be shoulder to cry on there, but can you take this too far? Can you be too nice?

It does happen, I've seen it. Among the Straight world guys that are everything a girl looks for are seen as sweet, and that's it. The girl then wonders off the the total arsehole regardless of his level of charm. In the Gay world this happens too.

Its a sad fact of life that the good guys finish last. But hey, at least we can sleep at night. or can we?

Posted into Random Thoughts at 05/07/2008 09:06:38 by scottbag

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I think what u have said is partly right, i will do anything i can to help others etc, like you have said, but it does not necessarily mean we are left on the heap and find happiness last
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By purplesmarties at 05/07/2008 09:10:53

You have to be fair and help yourself as well as others. It is sometims hard to spot the thin line between being kind and allowing yourself to be taken for a mug. What I will say is as soon as you do realise you are being had, the say "no more!" and walk away.
By XavierDundee at 05/07/2008 09:36:21

I dont talk to half of my mates ne more because of that fact!

as soon as you stop becoming the "funny" one...or have an opinion...or challenge them.your out on your arse..

i have new mates now an i have tottaly learned to say no!

good blog!

x
By joblow at 05/07/2008 10:21:20

I don't think we should ALWAYS go out of our way to help someone if its going to inconvenience us too much. First of all it depends who it is that needs help and whether its a moral issue. If its close friends or family then i'll do my best to help them regardless. However if its someone that i barely know and its going to inconvenience me then i think its okay now and again to say no and make yourself the priority. Obviously if if its someone i don't know and they are drowning in a river then im definitely obliged to help them, but if someone i barely know asks me to help them paint their house then chances are i'll say no. Its okay to be a little bit selfish now and again, its human nature.
By DanUK18 at 05/07/2008 10:33:52

friends are people who care for you and are there when u need them.

Acquantainces are people who hang around while u have something to offer.

Having too many friends is often a warning. Friends need hard work, your time and emotional strength. Spread it too thinly and the bond snaps.

I would prefer 3 good friends than a 1,000 'facebook' friends!
By older564younger at 05/07/2008 10:39:36

Good Blog. Gay,straight or bi,you are what you are.BUT being always there and ready to help,give,lend,sympathise can be seen as a weakness.Some go to church to be seen as Christian,my philosophy is you reap what you sow,you can sleep well at night if you do your best for mates,family and colleagues,Dont let others change you
By mercman at 05/07/2008 10:39:47

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